The circle of life can be a trying realization to us as our beloved pet ages.
Once he stops eating or drinking, barely notices your presences, or fails to
acknowledge his favorite treats or toys, it may be time to start considering
letting him go. Many vets will make house calls for euthanasia, which can make
the passing more comfortable for both owner and pet. Many of us hate the idea
of losing our beloved on a cold metal table, and would prefer to have it in
their pet's favorite bed or sleeping area. There are always the details to consider once the time has come. Cremation or
burial. My preferred choice is cremation. I would recommend private cremation which will help ensure you are left with your pet's remains only. Regardless of all the financial or administrative tasks that need to be dealt with in your pet's passing, the most difficult to deal with will be the emotional toll.
There are many ways to help grieve your loss:
Create a scrapbook:
Anytime you feel you miss him, enjoy the memories in pictures reminding you of all the wonderful past times you shared. Eventually, only happy memories will remain, and your memories will become a comfort.
Plant a tree:
Each spring as it flourishes your memory of him continues to flourish, as no pet could ever be replaced. Your tree will become a spot for reflection. The time you spend tending and pruning your tree will ease your grief, and help fill that void of no longer caring for your companion. Write a letter to your pet. Get all of your feelings out on paper, express what it feels like to lose him and to live on without him. Don't hold back. Anger, guilt, denial, and depression are common signs of grief, and no one can read these confessions but you.
Send a newspaper article or blog about your beloved. Share the memories with your loved ones and your support system. You may even find old pictures or stories long forgotten.
Ask for space and time to heal. Those who are not directly related may not feel the loss as you, many deal with loss differently. You will have loved ones urging you to move on or forward. Take your time.
Pay it forward. You may be left with a basket of toys or products. Donate them to a local shelter or rescue, and aid another needy pup.
These are just ideas I have found to help those who are grieving the loss of their pet. It never gets easier as we age. We notice how precious life is, and how our pets are with us for such a short period of our human lives. It will be an emotional time for the owner, and any remaining pets in the family. Try to keep routines, feelings, walks and playtime as consistent as you can to avoid any major behavior problems with your remaining pets. They will grieve in their own way too. Allow them to do so. Once you are ready, and you will know, pursue a new family pet. Take your time, chose a pet that matches your lifestyle. It will be hard, but it will be worth it.
